Relationship

We live in relationship. Even if we’re hermits on the top of a mountain we cannot not relate—to the blade of grass, the brook, the sun, the creator. By simply focusing on an object, a tree or another person, we create the twosome, I–It or I–Thou, that is a fundamental law of our universe. In this world of duality, we are always looking for—or else fighting against —that other part of the equation, whether it’s hot/cold, wet/dry, male/female. Just as our right hand will look for our left, or heaven for the earth, so are we looking for—or fearing—the perfect fit that will make us whole. We call this other part of the equation a soulmate.  Why soul? Is it gender opposite in the physical sense? Or can the equation be same-gender twins like Castor and Pollux? Can family, friends or even groups of people be soulmates? What causes us to be drawn to one person and not to another? Is it accidental or purposeful? Chance or destiny? How do we recognize that so-and-so or a particular group are soul mates or soul families? Does the law of attraction mean that we’ve met before in other lifetimes? Are there laws to finding the perfect soul match? And if we think we have found our match, how do we make sense of the fact that we do not “live happily ever after” but continue to struggle? Is feeling alienated and sometimes murderously angry also part of the picture? With soul connections we are dealing with a gamut of emotions ranging from the desire to possess or swallow up to the perfect match and union of equals. Many myths and fairy tales describe the quest for the perfect fit of shoe/soul/princess, and the kiss that awakens her. Beauty and the Beast are two opposites of the same equation. And this equation, recognized, transforms them from adversaries to a loving pair.  Our task this weekend will be to explore what soul mates are; the underlying reasons (dream, reincarnation) for these very charged relationships; how to call for and find our soul mates; how to allow them to 
fulfill us and make us one again.